its not just anger that shouldnt be permanently restrained. neither should fear or anxiety or great joy or any of the other emotions. just because we are feeling big emotions doesnt mean we are out of control. we can quite be emotional and still be in charge of what we are expressing. you wouldnt be human if you didnt feel stuff - and feel it big time. its natural and you shouldnt even make any attempt to stifle it. of course you can make sure it is let out at an appropriate time and place, but that is within you control. but then again if you do respond badly, you can always feel guilty about it afterwards - and thats ok too.
- richard templar, The Rules of Life.