Intimate relationships begin with a commitment to ourselves, not to another.
We are committed to presenting ourselves as we are, not pretending to be something the other expects or prefers.
If who we really are is not liked by another, then it is best for us to learn that early rather than waste our time on a relationship that is bound to fail no matter how much we pretend otherwise.

As we relate, we also accept that what we like and dislike is a statement about us and not a put-down of our partner.

We cannot compromise ourselves away just to keep a relationship going, because such compromises will generate smoldering resentment that will eventually poison the relationship.
Our limits should not be seen as attempts to control the other person, but rather as the contours of who we are.
We may find that once all of our feelings are in the open, neither of us can compromise far enough to allow the relationship to continue.
Such discover is not a reason to blame or to hate, but rather to accept that we simply cannot make it together.